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Dealing with Teens? Get this!
This book is a must-have for any Library shelf that serves teens.It is written in a style appealing to teens and includes short, one or two page summaries of ways to cope with the many issues teens face when questioning their sexuality.It also provides excellent, current resources for teens, from crisis lines to 'safe' (moderated) chat sites. I especially enjoyed the section dealing with 'coming out' to parents and family.It provided experiences from other teens who have (the good, the bad, and the ugly), and also possible responses parents might have when a teen tells them he/she is gay.In addition, it listed possible, respectful ways to respond to less-than-accepting parents.A fantastic compilation of stories, insights, and resources for teens.

wonderful book
i remember being a pre-teen, leafing through many books written for young women that followed an "our bodies ourselves" format. these books were ok, but never what i was really looking for. i didn't want information on how to ask boys to dance or how to apply lipstick- i wondered where the chapters entitled "when you don't feel like the rest or the girls" or "but what if i don't like boys?" were. Read more

Subjects:  1. Children's Books/Young Adult Social Situations    2. Children: Young Adult (Gr. 7-9)    3. Coming out (Sexual orientation    4. Coming out (Sexual orientation)    5. Gay teenagers    6. Health & Daily Living - Sexuality & Pregnancy    7. Homosexuality    8. Juvenile Nonfiction    9. Juvenile literature    10. Social Issues - Homosexuality    11. Social Science - Psychology    12. United States    13. Gays & Lesbians    14. Personal issues    15. Sex education & the facts of life   

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Subjects:  1. Gay Studies    2. Gender Studies    3. Heterosexuality    4. Homosexuality    5. Social Science    6. Social aspects    7. Sociology    8. Sociology - General    9. Sociology of disability    10. CULTURE    11. Disability: social aspects    12. Gay & Lesbian studies    13. History / Civilization    14. MARGINALITY, SOCIAL   

Reviews (5)

fantastic
this book holds a great collection of people living outside the gender binary.few fall into the trap of political soapboxing and instead tell honest, beautiful stories.i'd recomend this over "from the inside out" by morty diamond if your looking for a well written and engaging book of writing by gender queers.

mindblowing!!!!!!!
this was an excellent book that completely blew my mind about what i previously thought i knew about gender, even about transgendered persons. it peaked and held my thirst for understanding, and though it is not all encompassing....it opens the door wide and then pushes you into the deep end frocing you to swim through all the preconceived ideas that we have always been taught about gender and sex roles and identities...every author should be commended for sharing their deeply personal and often touching stories...i highly recommend this book to any and everyone

A wonderful anthology
In this amazing collection, various first-hand stories and essays from people in the nebulous area between male and female make the case of deconstructing gender. Including sections from Nestle and Wilchins, who have both already contributed much to the gender discussion already, the book lets those who live in between male and female have a voice. Ranging the length of queer gender from intersexuals to transexuals to femmes, "GenderQueer" doesn't leave any gender stone unturned, and expands the gay and lesbian rights debate to include gender issues, which the editors feel are at the core of the argument and of the harassment of queers and perceived queers in the United States. I found myself inspired by many of these personal tales, and I found myself reflected there as well. The final essay by Wilchins is especially moving and is the luscious cherry on the delicacies here. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Education    2. Gay Studies    3. Gender Studies    4. Lesbian Studies    5. Multicultural Education    6. Education / Multicultural Education    7. Gay & Lesbian studies   

Editorial Review

"Every happy family is alike, and every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way," wrote Leo Tolstoy. Families dealing with a child's homosexuality are certainly forced by a homophobic culture to experience a whole range of unhappiness. Read more

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A most important book.
Beyond good, this book is important. A book from the voices of parents who have lesbian and/or gay children. We have "heard" plenty from lesbians and gays, pleading for understanding and acceptance, so this book gives the readers a voice from "the other" side. Read this book before you come out to your parents.
I told my parents I'm gay this past weekend.It went much better than expected.Friends said that there were books on the market that could help.I checked out Amazon's selection and found _Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lesbians and Gays Talk About Their Experiences_ to be theextremely helpful in the coming-out-to-your-parents experience.The bookwas, for me, accurate in "predicting" my parents' reactions, downto the questions they would ask, the emotions they would go through, etc. It was touching, and inspiring as it brings you from the initial coming outevent all the way through to parents who have taken action in theircommunities against homophobia.The book doesn't pretend that all parentswill change so drastically, but it shows what's possible. An Excellent Coming Out Tool
This book is written as a resource for parents. I bought and read it before coming out to my parents.Insightful and careful writing to help you understand what your parents might feel when you tell them.Then givethem a copy when you have the big discussion.The authors use loads ofreal-life examples from many different people and situations to helpparents understand and relate. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Family / Parenting / Childbirth    2. Family Relationships    3. Gay Studies    4. Gay men    5. Homosexuality    6. Lesbians    7. Parenting - General    8. Self-Help    9. United States    10. Self-Help & Practical Interests   

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Overpowering Foucault...
Sara Mills' text on Michel Foucault is part of a recent series put out by the Routledge Press, designed under the general editorial direction of Robert Eaglestone (Royal Holloway, University of London), to explore the most recent and exciting ideas in intellectual development during the past century or so. To this end, figures such as Martin Heidegger, Sigmund Freud, Friedrich Nietzsche, Jacques Derrida, Paul Ricouer and other influential thinkers in critical thought are highlighted in the series, planned to include more than 21 volumes in all.Read more

Subjects:  1. 1926-1984    2. European - French    3. Foucault, Michel    4. Foucault, Michel,    5. Gay & Lesbian    6. History & Surveys - Modern    7. Literary Criticism    8. Philosophy    9. Semiotics & Theory    10. French    11. Literary Criticism & Collections / French    12. Western philosophy, from c 1900 -   

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Give it to me you hairy beast
I love my man Walter (my 'beefcake' and or 'big bear') and so I was excited to bring this home to him last week.We had just gotten into the anal pleasures (I was an oral man) of our relationship, and I wanted to show him that I was willing to take him anyway he wanted to give it.While the positions here are not mind blowing they did prove to add some excitment, some of which we'd never tried before.Walter is still a fan of having me grab my ankles, and I have to admitt that lowering my head between my legs and watching Walter's bright white butt cheeks as he pounds me in the mirror next to our bed is quite nice, it does get a little stale.I much prefer to see his face, especially since his expression upon climax is beautiful.There is much use to this book, if not to get you hot and bothered enough to let anything go (the other night I was so into him that I let him pound me seven times in a row...god was I sore, but it was worth it), it will give you some 'history' (boring, now show me you pole) on sex.I may not be the HUGEST fan of this book, but I am the HUGEST fan of my man, so I'm going to sign off right now and tell him to "give it to me you hairy beast!"

Not Impressed
It seemed like a cool book when i was flipping through it, but upon reading it... it didn't seem so great (all the sexual postions seemed like the stuff I was doing in the seventh grade) so don't buy it with the expectations of turning into a human pretzel with your lover...

Its a history book...
I glanced at this book, it seems like a history book. It does talk about some postitions, but i suppose anyone could have figured out the ones it talks about. In my opinion Ultimate Gay Sex is a better book. Not only does UGS talk about postions (and leaves out the history... yuck!) UGS talks about relationsips, positons, protection, and contracted deasises and their symptoms.... hope this helps! ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Gay Studies    2. Homosexuality    3. Love / Sex / Marriage    4. Sexual Instruction    5. Social Science    6. Sociology   

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Definately a better read than J.L. King's book
Instead of sensationalizing the issue, I felt Mr. Boykin was aiming to educate people about homosexuality in black America instead of entertaining the masses. Great book!

Mixed Feelings
"Beyond the Down Low" by Keith Boykin is a great accumulation of background information on the topics of blacks, gays, HIV and AIDS, and their interdependence in American society. As Keith Boykin has seen and achieved a great number of things in his life, he can provide an expert look at facts from different perspectives.
Take it or leave it
I've just finished reading Boykin's book, "Beyond the Down Low."While I find it well written and his observations often on point, I come away from reading the final paragraph thinking, "So what?"
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Subjects:  1. African American bisexual men    2. Attitudes    3. Black American Sociology    4. Ethnic Studies - African American Studies - General    5. Ethnic Studies - African American Studies - Lifest    6. Gay Studies    7. Human Sexuality    8. Men's Studies - General    9. Psychology    10. Sex Relations    11. Sexual behavior    12. Social Science    13. Sociology    14. Social Science / African-American Studies   

Subjects:  1. Family & Relationships    2. Family/Marriage    3. Gender Studies    4. Human Sexuality    5. Love & Romance    6. Love / Sex / Marriage    7. Sexuality    8. Bisexuals    9. Psychology & Psychiatry / Human Sexuality   

Editorial Review

In the sixties, David Mixner became an activist in the civil rights and anti-war movements, then emerged in the seventies as an influential Washington insider. Unknown to his comrades, he was also a closet homosexual, so scared of exposure he let hardly anyone know his secret. With good reason: when he came out in 1977 he lost a lot of his political clout. Undeterred he marched on a new crusade--gay liberation. He returned to national prominence as a political activist when he led a hugely successful drive in the gay community to elect his long-time friend Bill Clinton. That relationship, which has been bittersweet through Clinton's presidency, is one of the fascinating sidelights in this memoir of a radical life. ... Read more

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Fascinating
In this day of the modern Gay Rights Movement, no biography captures the true story of someone moderately simple, becoming the voice of a fantastic mission with true, heartfelt passion for the equality of gays and lesbians.Full of pathos, life lessons, screw-ups, ironies and inspiration that truly reflects the dichotomy of living as an evolving gay man during the sexual revolution, Reagan-Era AIDS, and the Clinton Era of Inclusion against the backdrop of a hidden sex life.I was glad to know this story!

I really enjoyed and would reccomend this book
I must say, this was one of the best books I've read in a while. It was just fascinating. It starts out describing David's childhood, goes onto his time in college, his antiwar activism, his many struggles with his homosexuality, finally with his coming out and becoming a gay activist, and then to his time spent working on the Clinton campaign all the way up to Clinton's innaguration. It's a very readable book, it draws you in from the first few pages and really keeps you wanting to know what will happen next in David's very exciting activist life. Another thing that kept me reading was I was dying to find out when he would finally come out. It is easy to relate to David's pain and I was inspired to see what he did with that pain and to read about the many remarkable things he has done with this life. I finished this book in a little over a week and wished there was more. I loved learning more about the political and activist worlds while at the same time learning about him. If you have any interest in politics, activism, AIDS, or gay and lesbian issues, or just like a good memoir, read this book. You'll like it :)

good book kinda of long
it was a good book for the most part but it kinda of ran on and on i still have a copy of it around some where ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Biography    2. Biography / Autobiography    3. Biography/Autobiography    4. Gay activists    5. Gay rights    6. Mixner, David B    7. Political    8. Political Freedom & Security - Civil Rights    9. Political Science    10. Presidents    11. Sociology - General    12. Specific Groups - Male Gay Studies    13. Staff    14. United States    15. Biography & Autobiography / Political   

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Some Things Never Change
This for-the-most-part very fine collection of 21 essays by gay men writing about growing up (there are two or three selections I would have omitted) reminded me of how much alike we all are and that their experiences and mine, even though we are separated by a generation, are essentially pretty much the same: wanting to be accepted by others, both at home and at school, the crushes on male straight friends, the trauma of playing center field, the fear of taking communal showers, being labeled sensitive or different and the feelings of utter aloneness. There was not so much the name calling then ("fag" and "faggot"), however; our differentness was just not talked about. Or as Lily Tomlin says so aptly in one of her monologues, in the 60's nobody was gay; we were just shy.
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Subjects:  1. Essays    2. Fiction - General    3. Gay    4. Gay Studies    5. Gender Studies    6. Homosexuality    7. Men's Studies - General    8. Social Science    9. Sociology    10. Sociology Of Men    11. Fiction / Gay   

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Met the author in a support group- she is for real!
Hello, I want to say that I have not yet read the book, but want to ask if someone wants to get a car fixed, would they go to someone who's never worked or fixed a car themselves or someone who knows how because they have had to walk it through and learn?What I'm getting at is that Anne Paulk has worked through and walked through what it takes to walk out of lesbianism and same sex attraction so why not give a try a book written by someone who has "fixed a car" and walked out and went on.
Consider the source
Now, let me get this "straight": We're supposed to give credence to the wife of the founder of Exodus International, who, two years after appearing on the cover of Newsweek as the poster boy for "ex-gay" movement, was discovered chatting up another man in a Washington, D.C., gay bar?
Good place to start
If you believe that lesbianism is not a "normal" expression of sexuality, then this book may help you. However, if you don't believe in the Bible, this book is not meant to persuade you. For the record, the APA requires therapists to respect the position of the client in terms of what they want their therapy to accomplish. If a woman wants to find a way out of lesbianism, a psychotherapist is ethically required to help that woman do it.
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Subjects:  1. Christianity    2. Christianity - Christian Life - Women's Issues    3. Christianity - General    4. Gay Studies    5. Homosexuality    6. Human Sexuality    7. Religion - Socialissues    8. Religious aspects    9. Sexuality & Gender Studies    10. Social Science    11. Sociology    12. Religion / Counseling   

Subjects:  1. Bisexuals    2. Gays    3. Handbooks, manuals, etc    4. Human Sexuality    5. Lesbians    6. Mental health    7. Psychology    8. Psychotherapy - General   

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Cold truth we should all know, but are afraid to find out
Dr. Isay makes some very strong points.I bought this book in response to a recent break up.I found its pages filled with incite into a very strong possible reason for why my recent lover was not able to let me into his heart.I used to think that monogamy was not possible in a gay relationship.I found someone that I wanted to share everything with, exclusively.I now feel that monogamy is possible and Dr. Isay explained some valid and compelling reasons why that should be a goal.I highly recommend this book for anyone that has found something missing in their traditional gay relationships.

Commitment and Healing
This book gaveprofessional insight into gay relationships and their origins and ways to deal with resulting conflicts. Most books have not dealt with such an area. The case histories were also a plus.

EXCELLENT NEW BOOK ON GAY MALE RELATIONSHIPS
Well-written and easy to read, this is a deep and thoughtful book. Richard Isay does not give the usual, easy solutions for the difficult problems gay men have in their committed relationships. He does not endorse the position that our open relationships are better than heterosexual relationships. Isay is a true maverick. His first book, "Being Homosexual", is widely considered the most influential book ever written about gay male psychology. This new book is just as groundbreaking as his first. I found it very helpful in getting my relationship back on track, and recommend it highly. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Commitment (Psychology)    2. Gay Studies    3. Gay men    4. Gender Studies    5. Love & Romance    6. Mental health    7. Psychology    8. Sexual Instruction    9. Social Science    10. Sociology    11. Family & relationships    12. Gay studies (Gay men)    13. Social Science / Gay Studies   

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REAL , HOT
WELL WRITTEN STORIES (MEMORIES),OF ENCOUNTERS BETWEEN GAY MEN AND SUPPOSEDLY STRAIGHT MEN. THESE ENCOUNTERS HAPPEN IN ALL KINDS OF PLACES. READS LIKE A PORN BOOK BUT REMEMBER THESE ARE ALL TRUE STORIES. WELL, WHETHER THEY ARE OR NOT THEY MAKE FOR GREAT LATE NIGHT READING.

Exciting book!!!
The best part is this book contains TRUE stories and that makes it so much more realistic. If you hate fiction about hot guys who always have 10 inches, this book is for you. Some stories remind me of my own experiences and I believe they are really true. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Erotica - General    2. Fiction    3. Gay Studies    4. Gay men    5. Gender Studies    6. Heterosexual men    7. Sexual behavior    8. Sociology    9. United States    10. Fiction / Erotica    11. Literature of special Gay interest    12. Modern fiction   

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Excellent book
I've been doing workshops for a men's group here in New York and this book as well as Mr. Kort's previous text have been excellent resources.Not only the scenarios but the root causes of why men develop as they do in relationship to their sexuality are excellent.The referencing to Erik Erikson and Harville Hendrix (tests I also utilize) as well as the specific application of the tomes to activities and insights is stellar.What surprise dme most about the book was how it balanced accessible language and yet was able to present enough psychological/psychiatric/therapeutic language/technique for the lay person to understand.A lot of the "why's" about men and sexuality and actions and integrity or lack thereof was answered.One of the things I constantly do in my groups now is remind the men how they were socialized as boys, how it was enforced/beaten out of them not to portray their sexuality or sexual thoughts/interests and how this indoctrination carries over and manifests itself in adult life.You can literally watch the lightbulbs of enlightenment go off in the heads of the men as they start to link simple things like sit still, don't flounce, don't sigh, don't cry, don't whine, don't, don't don't---in order to be masculine/a "man" to being what caused a lot of confusion.What happens to someone who's identity is constantly challenged, taunted, corrected---they adopt an identity that is pleasing to the masses, however they are then thrust into a society where the two identites--one false and one repressed are incongruous and therefore enter into a lifestyle that has very few mature standards/practices.
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Subjects:  1. Gay Studies    2. Gay couples    3. Gender Studies    4. Interpersonal relations    5. Love & Romance    6. Social Science    7. Sociology    8. Gay studies (Gay men)    9. Social Science / Gay Studies   

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and unanticipated dissapointment
I do not come to this with merely abstract interest. I was asked to read this book by a good friend who is a gay Christian man (his description of himself). As he and I have had a many month conversation about homosexuality and the praxis of Christian sexuality I was seeking to read some of the best of the pro-gay Christian writing. This book was the first he assigned.
Good Debate on an Important Issue
Here we have another multiple-views style book where the authors present their cases and then critique one another.This certainly proves to be a helpful forum for the discussion of the particularly important issue of Christian faith and homosexuality.In this helpful book, both perspectives on the issue are presented in conversation with one another in a way that will helpfully lead to some good dialog rather than mere acquiescence to homosexual practice or bigoted homophobia.
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Subjects:  1. Bible - CriticismInterpretation - General    2. Bible - Hermeneutics    3. Biblical teaching    4. Ethics    5. Homosexuality    6. Religion    7. Religion - Commentaries / Reference    8. Sexuality & Gender Studies    9. The Bible    10. Gay & Lesbian    11. Christian Sexual Ethics   

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love this book and its author!
For those of us who have been starving since finishing Mercer's 'Welcome to the Jungle' or Fusco's 'English Is Broken Here', this is an excellent book to add to your reading list. Through complex theory and deep analysis, Munoz effectively articulates what many of us know but have difficulty proving to others: lesbian and gay artists of color are producing some of the nation's and the world's most revolutionary and counterhegemonic work. I am especially impressed that he examines work by Black, Latino, and Asian gays. This is a much-needed book for anyone who would like to see people of color come together in coalition. You will be impressed with Munoz's creation. This is not Hemphill's 'Brother to Brother' or Moraga's 'This Bridge Called My Back.' Some readers will be put off by the semiotic language Munoz uses. However, for those who can get through it, you will enjoy this book.

Unimpressive
Simply put, this contribution to performance studies lacks any theory of the audience.The book is eager to explicate the subversive meanings subtending the work of various artists, but the interpretations require something more than a completely essentialized and abstracted characterization of the audience as a homogeneous unit that can be assumed, without further analysis, to share whatever meanings the author ascribes to the works under consideration.I would have thought that, given the proliferation of interpretive traces available through zine culture, the internet, academic commentary, and other media, it would be virtually irresistible for a cultural critic like Munoz to exploit those centexts when deploying his theoretical tools.Yet it seems not to have occurred to him that there can be no complete, or even adequately informed, analsysis of performance without some effort to particularize and attend to the audience.Lacking such contextualization, the interpretations become nothing more than solitary meditations, floating free of any moorings.

Hack Job
The critique of John Champagne's Ethics of Marginality in the introduction of this book is just plain shoddy and careerist.Munoz states that Champagne accuses Marlon Riggs' Tongues Untied of vilifying white people; in fact, Champagne's critique says the film vilifies gay, white, s/m culture.Munoz accuses Champagne of ignorance of Essex Hemphill's poetry--poetry Champagne himself discusses in the very same chapter in which he analyzes Tongues Untied.Apparently, Munoz is so interested in making a name for himself that he doesn't bother to read carefully the sources he cites.Perhaps Champagne's critique of the figure of the privileged marginal just hits too close to home for NYU's Munoz. ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Ethnic Studies - General    2. Gay Studies    3. General    4. Hispanic American gays    5. Lesbian Studies    6. Minority gays    7. Minority lesbians    8. Social Science    9. Social conditions    10. Sociology    11. United States    12. Gay & Lesbian studies    13. Performing Arts    14. Social groups & communities    15. USA   

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What a load of crap
Read what the real professionals have to say.
Evaluation of a thorough and necessary analysis
I would recommend this for any male, not necessarily limited to those struggling with homosexual issues.It is an in-depth look at what is needed for growth into manhood, and being OK with being a man, and what being a man entails.

Good insights
This would be a good book for you if:
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Subjects:  1. Christianity    2. Christianity - Christian Life - Men's Issues    3. Counseling    4. Gay Studies    5. Homosexuality, Male    6. Masculinity    7. Men (Christian theology)    8. Men's Studies - General    9. Religion - Christian Life    10. Religion - Christian Living    11. Religious aspects    12. Social Science    13. Sociology    14. Religion / Counseling   

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Excellent "Leather Anthology"
This book sat on my bookshelf for quite a while before I finally sat down and read it cover to cover. I was amazed and impressed by what I read. This anthology features essays by some of the most well-known authors in the leather community including Dorothy Allison, Geoff Mains, Mark Thompson, Guy Baldwin, Pat (now Patrick) Califia, Gayle Rubin, and Joseph Bean. The essays offer a "glimpse" into what "is" the leather community. Topics covered include leather history (from the 1940's through the 1990's, including an excellent essay on the Catacombs, a now legendary San Francisco male fisting and SM playspace), scene politics, spirituality, and numerous other topics about consensual power play. Not your average how-to manual...
The Leatherfolk Anthology is full of valuable information and first person accounts from within the BDSM community.This book goes beyond the scope of a how-to-manual with more theoretically based essays designed to inform people not directly involved with BDSM and challenge people in the leather community itself.This book is probably not for anyone who doesn't know what "vanilla sex" means or is other wise sexually non-deviant.

Student Opinion, Must Read Book for All!!
The stories in this book communicate the history and a chronology of the SM and Leather community through various individual's experiences, thoughts and impressions.After reading Thompson's compilation I felt I had a deeper understanding and curiosity for the intricacies of the leather/SM community.The voices are from all over the spectrum and give insights into various multi-layered identities.The editor's determination to portray the chronology and the ancient origins of SM give important foundations for the contemporary commentaries by members of the community.I am a student in a Gay and Lesbian Ethnography class and this was my favorite book over the entire semester and I learned so much through the varied perspectives and historical foundations.It inspired discussions and reflections on sex and how it tends to function socially and personally outside of the SM community and how there is a lot to be learned from that community regarding communication and respect.I must also mention that the piece by Dorothy Allison was one of the most passionate, poetic and evocative excerpts I have read from a lesbian perspective! ... Read more

Subjects:  1. Love / Sex / Marriage    2. Self-Help    3. Sexual Instruction    4. Social Science / Gay Studies    5. Gay & Lesbian studies    6. Human Sexuality    7. Sex & sexuality   

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